I hope you’ll allow me to indulge myself for this blog entry and take a trip away from the
outdoor recreation books and my other writing to instead take a trip down memory lane.
For those of
you who have read the first edition of “Living in a Banana Dream” (yes, first
edition, but more on that in an upcoming blog) you know that this “fictional”
tale of growing up (loosely based on faulty memories, of course) centers around
a gang of friends reuniting at a quintessential New Jersey diner before heading
off to their 40th class reunion. Well, the “dream” continues.
Back in June I made my way up to old Mahwah, New Jersey for just that,
the real-life 40th reunion, the one I wrote about two years before
it even happened. Every hour except those used for sleep and the 3 or so hours
that I spent at the real class reunion was with the gang and I’m here to tell
you, and I can only speak for myself but I think the rest of the gang felt the
same, it was just like in the book, like we had never left.
I’m sure there are other groups of friends that have survived the years
and are still as tight as they were all those years ago but this seemed
different, like we were family not just friends. Even though 2,000 miles and
forty years separated us we were, and still are, just a phone call away. Our
sense of humor including non-stop bad jokes and puns, our dreams, nothing has
changed. Even my family is awestruck with how close this “gang” is.
As expected we did the usual reunion type events like eating at our
favorite diners and restaurants we knew all too well from our distant past. We slurped
down large frosty mugs of Egg Creams and chowed down on Kinchley’s Pizza and
had Reuben’s at the Mahwah Bar and Grill. The only eatery we couldn’t visit was
Pal’s Diner, the central figure of “Living in a Banana Dream” which was physically
moved years ago to save it from ruin and which is now a thriving diner in Grand
Rapids, Michigan.
We visited the old high school which isn’t the same at all. In the book,
you may remember that I described it as a campus, several separate buildings
that made it a challenge getting from one class to another on those frosty, icy,
bitterly cold northern winter mornings. Today it is a single building,
all-in-one. A couple of the old buildings remain and are being used by the
school board or for storage but otherwise, it’s not even close to what it used
to be with the exception of the gold-ish statue of the school mascot, the
Thunderbird, perched out front.
Even though the school was closed for the summer the new principal was
gracious enough to allow a few of us to walk around and check out the newer building.
We looked at the plaques, the awards, names of kids we knew from the Class of
76 who still hold records in one sport or another. Then we came upon the one place
that was a must see for us - the cafeteria.
It basically looked the same but was no longer a single building. The
front now had an overhang that attached it to the new building like an
umbilical cord. It still had large glass windows in the front like it used to
be but instead of looking out over a beautiful northern New Jersey mountain
vista it now looked out into the walkway and the brickwork of the new building.
Each of us took a seat on the benches that were attached to long tables
that stretched from one end of the room to the other. They were almost exact
replications of the tables we used to sit at, or as far as we could remember
they did. This is where the memories really began to flow. The cafeteria was
the center of activity forty years ago. When we weren’t at one of our houses
watching the Yankees, playing baseball, or cruising with our best girl, the cafeteria
was the hub where crushes on your favorite girl or guy were either realized or
dashed. It was where many notes were passed between tables and friends,
sometimes being intercepted by the wrong person. It was where we made our
plans.
After leaving the school we drove around town to see our old houses and
haunts. Million dollar houses were springing up next to or replacing the old
blue collar homes of years gone by. The town had become upper class, a far, far
different feel than forty years ago when factories like the Ford Assembly Plant
would chug out smoke and products to the world.
We circled around and drove up Route 17 not once but several times. The
traffic there was still mean to borrow a phrase from TV show host Uncle
Floyd. My face pressed up against the
glass of the car I was riding in, straining to see any vestiges of my old
house, but there was nothing, not a trace of the old house that sat on the side
of Houvenkopf Mountain, blown away by tons of dynamite years before so that a
new multi-lane highway could merge in with Route 17.
For the first time during the trip my eyes began to tear as I remembered
my Mom and Dad, long since passed, my sister who passed a year ago, and the too
many to mention remarkable times the gang had in that house.
On the very last day, the day of the actual reunion, the class had set aside the morning to have a hike that I was to lead. It was a hike to McMillan Reservoir. Forty years ago, before we ever attempted our first backpacking trip we
would take day hikes to the top of Houvenkopf Mountain, the nearby cliffs of Ramapo Torne, and McMillan Reservoir. The reservoir was one of our favorite
destinations especially in the fall when the autumn leaves are bright and reflect in the still water.
It’s hard to believe that those hikes so long ago, those little jaunts with
the gang would end up leading me to the hills, canyons, rivers, and beaches of Alabama
and an amazing side-career writing about one of my favorite activities.
I worried about the reunion. I worried about how everyone might have
changed. I worried about how I have changed. I should have known better.